I actually know someone that has been doing it just a year longer than me and they are about to be on NBC. I hear comics around getting upset saying. "I'm funnier than them" "What did they do that i didn't" "I worked harder". Don't be upset by others success. Be happy!
Comedy isn't easy. There i said it. Every comic from new comers to vets know that comedy is one of the hardest professions to get into and make a living. Anyone can do it. Literally at an open mic someone that has never done it can walk up and make jokes. Comedy is constant rejection with some brief moments of acceptance. When I see friends and fellow comics post stuff like "I got into this festival" or " I'm going to be on t.v" "I can't believe it i'm opening for bill burr." I get happy knowing how hard they worked to achieve that and how thankful i am to know them. Someone I'm very fortunate enough to know is going to be on t.v next month. This will push their career and i know they will be able to keep going till its their living. The first thing that went in my mind was I told my wife about them and I bragged about knowing them. Its ok though to be jealous but don't let it consume you where you think it should have been you. You're much funnier than them. You'll hate them. Instead think with understanding. You don't know how hard they worked to get there. You also don't know who thinks the same about you.
When i first started people were envious of me that had been doing it for 3 years. I got booked on shows after 3 months into comedy. As time passed I saw it happening to me. It didn't make me upset it pushed me to write more and to be better. As you work harder and harder you might bust your ass for a weekend show. Say its only a guest spot. You wanted to host but they let you do a guest spot instead. You can be mad because someone else got the host spot and you're funnier than them. Just remember there is someone jealous of you getting the guest spot. Be happy each step of the way because you worked hard for what you were given. Think about the headliner. They have failed more times than you have attempted. That's why they are there. Don't get discouraged though. Remember we are all in this together and we should promote each other not push each other down.
When i was younger i was in an orchestra where we traveled the world. I was paid to play stand up bass in 14 countries for 3 years. I was the youngest player in the orchestra by about 10 years. I played hard but then a 12 year old joined and was first chair violinist. No matter how hard i practiced she was better in my mind. I then realized we play two different instruments in the same field. When she won an award i wasn't mad i was proud of her and we went to burger king before she had to go to bed at 8:00pm that night. It doesn't matter how good you are or how hard you work there will always be someone better than you. It should never discourage you it should push you to get better and better. I left the music field cause it was too competitive and the groupies all witnessed World War II first hand.
Comedy is a long and immersive experience that takes us all to the very edge of reason and sanity. It picks away parts of our psyche and it leaves a lot of us with a overwhelming depression. The person you are thinking about that just got on t.v before you? Do you know how many times they were rejected before they got on t.v? Do you know how many other people they had to beat out to get that part? Why do we do it then? Fame? Money? Admiration? Well pick another field. I do this because I want to be around funny people and i love making people laugh. Before comedy I stayed inside all the time and was very antisocial unless i was put in that setting then i was life of the party. I was scared though of making friends. I didn't know how and i didn't like rejection. As soon as i started doing comedy i met super funny people who are still my friends today. We all understand the struggle of comedy. Its a cut throat profession but it doesn't have to be.
When i look at it. I want to be in the crowd supporting my friend who made it instead of not and feeling sorry for myself. Even if i don't make it one day i'll be happy knowing that i'm friends with people that have. I always tell my friends "Don't forget me when you make it. We still gonna hang out?" It goes along the way when someone believes in you. If you're reading this message two comics you really like and think are funny and just say hey I think your hilarious and I love working with you. Don't ask for stage time don't do anything else. I guarantee you just made someones day. Also if you think just when you get on t.v it gets easier it doesn't. I have a friend that was on t.v for years, headlines shows and slays every time on stage but he still gets down on himself. Its still hard for him.
If you look at my past i left music because it was too competitive, i'm not good with rejection of putting myself out there to make friends. I completely went out of my comfort zone to do comedy. Its a journey that will only benefit me because i'm breaking down those barriers that terrify me. I'll be stronger as a person and i'll smile more knowing i tried.
Thank you for reading.